Be Brave, Be Yourselfie

A battle between our real selves and our made up caricatures.

With all the latest photo editing apps trending nowadays that can cover our haggard looks with beautifying filters, we forget the truth that we are not flawless and perfect. We spend more time preparing the background, lighting, set-up and ourselves for just a single capture that would definitely by our next upload. But that doesn’t end there, we have a time allotted for fitting all the filters that would look great on our pictures. We do all these because we see it works. We get shared, reblogged, retweeted, and liked. We find ourselves cool turning our imperfections to perfection, and gaining more fans who secretly envy us by seeing our set of awesome (yet fake) photos. Believe it or not, this craze we are into has given us too many personal and social disorders. Surely, all of us are infected of these if not more than the other then a pinch of it.

All of us become online public figures right when we started to act like one. We post status about our daily routines as if lots of people out there care, we post our vanity self photos daily to *insert here whatever your reason is*, and we share a lot more lies about ourselves. We try our best to create images that will reflect the life we want to see ourselves in. We want the world know how awesome our lives are, and how pretty cool we are. We only show the good ones, and usually we even fake it just to have one. Sadly, we don’t capture the reality of our lives.

We are in a constant competition of chasing fame and perfection through these social media that obviously made us hate our real selves. Right after seeing one picture of someone we don’t even know, who does great, and looks good, we suddenly feel less of ourselves. That triggers us to compete, and so we try to hide our imperfections as much as possible and create a caricature of ourselves that is perfect, awesome, gorgeous and likeable. We praise our made up caricature but at the end of the day when we are alone with our imperfect and real selves, we get disappointed, and worse, it leads to self-hatred.

Because of this competition, we show too many versions of ourselves because we don’t know anymore who we really are. We don’t know what we really want to do in our life at the same time we do a lot of things thinking it is really what we want. Believe me, it reflects through our online activities, the kind of status we post, the kind of pictures we share. We are infected with both identity crisis and multiple identity syndrome. These are all due to our engagement to an online competition that we don’t even notice we do.

Sadly, it can lead to a point that we are not anymore living for our real selves but for our made up caricatures . We take care of our online presence, we live each day nourishing our caricatures, while we forget to take care of our reality. We became obsessed, not with ourselves, but with our made up caricatures.

Every day we expect something. We expect more people to like us, and appreciate what we do. But, what do we really deserve what we get? Are the pretensions we do on online publicity deserve other people’s appreciation? Is the caricature we made deserves fans?

It’s alright to have all the accounts present today, it’s alright to be active online, but don’t use it in a way that it may lead to self-hatred and social issues. A lot of us discovered more about themselves through online connections, they explored the world, learned a lot from other people, and found out what they want to do in their lives. Thanks to the internet! But, don’t ever let yourself create a caricature of yourself and market it online. If you aren’t happy with the life you have now, don’t expect yourself to be happy in a life that is not real and not yours. Be brave, and show your authenticity. Get likes for being real, and not for being your own made up caricature.

Najmah is a 23 year old Filipino Muslim, Clinical Nutritionist, Med student and Writer. Born and raised in Saudi Arabia. Living in the Philippines since 2010. She is the founder of The Muslim Bricks. You can also find her blogging on her personal blog.By Najmah is her personal blog that contains posts about her life lessons, Islamic reflections, personal excellence and journey to becoming a doctor.

28 Replies to “Be Brave, Be Yourselfie”

    • Najmah Bint Nasr

      Waalaikom salaam sister Mariam. Sister Madiyah is a good friend of mine. We met on a network of Muslim bloggers. May Allah bless her for serving as an inspiration to many including myself. I am so happy seeing your comments. I know your Mother through WISHES and I received email in regards to what happened to her, may Allah grant her the highest of Jannah for her contribution to the ummah. She is one of the great Muslim educators and writers. And I can see you are following hee path in the field of academe and writing. May Allah guide you through this sister. By the way, I am basically a Maranao. I was born and grew up in Jeddah Saudi Arabia. Im glad to know you are a Maranao also. I thought youre from different tribe. Alhamdulillah.

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    I love your posts about real things that happen every single day. I feel like I get smacked right back to reality when I read your posts. Keep doing what you’re doing, keep it real <3

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      Alhamdulillah. All my posts are based from my real experience, i tackle simple issues we often ignore, or reality that we don’t know happens. My writings are reminders not only to those who read my blog, but first to myself. May Allah guide us through our journey from and to Him.

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