When I was younger, I understood Patience in a strange way. I was taught to be patient by waiting when I don’t get what I want, remaining calm when things annoy me, controlling my emotions when situations get tough. But, growing up I realized that I never understood what patience really is. Patience is not simply being kind to people despite the negative attitude they have. Now that I experience living alone, meeting different types of people with different beliefs, facing different challenges, I learnt Patience in different forms.
Now, patience has become the practice of keeping my faith firm despite the confusion made by people around me, it has become focusing on my real goals when material gains are overwhelming. It has become the practice of evaluating my intention and giving up the things that will not benefit me at all. It has become the consistency of praying 5 times a day and reading the Qur’an every day. It has become controlling desires, it has become that strength to turn back to Allah when things lead me away from Him.
Patience is vital in our spiritual journey and self-development. There are times when we rush ourselves from learning, improving and excelling because we see other people who are doing great in what they do. But, we should not compare our journey to theirs and we should not expect ourselves to change instantly.
Surely, we know some friends or people whoe inspire us to become better Muslims but we have to remind ourselves that we should not aim to be like them but to be the best we can be. They could be our role models but not to the point that we follow exactly everything they do even it’s not really our thing. We can be the best by doing what we are good at or what we enjoy doing. For me, this is another form of patience.
May Allah make us patient that will help us to strengthen our faith and to survive our daily life pleasing Allah. Ameen.