The Approval You Really Need

As children, we long for our parents’ approval. We want to hear that they are proud, of what we do, of us. We want to hear from them that they are happy and thankful that we are their children. We long for approval, compliments and recognition.

But this desire is exaggerated as we get more exposed to the digital world. Our images, ideas, and life are more exposed than ever before. As we broadcast online our daily life, our achievements, our work, and our relationships, we expect approvals. Approvals not only by our family but by people we never met, people we don’t even know exist. These could be people who follow us online, or even people who don’t. Due to our exaggerated desire, we long for more approvals in the form of likes, comments and compliments.

Sadly, this kind of approval is addicting, and harmful. It keeps us crave for more “likes” and it makes us feel that our worth is based on how many “double-tap” we get.

We know that this isn’t the real approval we need. Our being shouldn’t be fed by “likes” and by approval from people. No human can satisfy our longing for approval because the only approval we really need isn’t the one that comes from people. But we grant them that power anyway. In the end, we become insecure, broken, lost and empty. By depending our self-worth to the opinions of people, we become more blind to find our purpose, our calling, that is planned by Allah. We ignore our real identity that is designed by Allah, while we long to be someone else to attain approvals on and off social media.

Let go of that addiction.

Letting go of this kind of addiction does not mean you should delete your social media accounts, hate compliments and stop using the internet forever. Letting go means you don’t depend your self-worth based on what people say. You filter out people’s opinions, turn the good ones as your reason to thank Allah more and ignore the negative ones that won’t help you grow or improve.  You will feel secured no matter what the world thinks of you, if you let only gaining the approval of Allah be your purpose.

Najmah is a 23 year old Filipino Muslim, Clinical Nutritionist, Med student and Writer. Born and raised in Saudi Arabia. Living in the Philippines since 2010. She is the founder of The Muslim Bricks. You can also find her blogging on her personal blog.By Najmah is her personal blog that contains posts about her life lessons, Islamic reflections, personal excellence and journey to becoming a doctor.

26 Replies to “The Approval You Really Need”

  1. Mariam Mababaya JustSharingIslam

    Nice reminders sister Najmah and wonderfully said too 🙂 A true Muslim never obsesses over pleasing other fellow servants of Allah as Allah is the Only One Whom we live to please. We’re here not to impress anyone nor be superior to some people. We’re here to fulfill our duties to God Allah and find ways to do the good deeds which Allah loves and which lead to meeting Him in Heaven.

    Take the hijaab or niqaab for example, a Muslimah would not dress modestly to be approved by a certain group of sisters but she does so to obey His Laws sincerely for the sake of Allah Almighty.

    Remember us in your sweet du’as sister Najmah love you for Allah’s sake and keep up the very informative and wonderful posts 🙂

    Wasalaam 🙂
    Mariam JustSharingIslam.blogspot

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